Are you dealing with a spouse who has decreased sexual desire for you? The question is, what can you do about it? If decreased desire in a husband or wife becomes a problem, couples need to begin the solution by having a heart-to-heart talk outside of the marriage bed.
Loss of libido sex drive is a common problem affecting up to one in five men — and even more women — at some point in their life. If you're concerned about your libido, especially if your diminished sex drive distresses you or affects your relationship, make an appointment to see your GP to discuss any underlying causes and possible medical or psychological treatments. In the meantime, you may find the following information useful.
The secret code of the female libido has been notoriously hard to crack. It seems science has it all figured out when it comes to helping boners stand at full attention, but when it comes to vaginas, well, it becomes way more complicated. One of the biggest reasons is that sex drive in women can't be boiled down to just getting one organ to do its job.
And is that enough? Not wanting enough sex is the big problem for most women who consult me as a clinical sexologist. And most sex therapists will agree that having a low level of sexual desire is a problem. But the majority of these women are heterosexual with male partners who are — you guessed it — complaining.
Many couples find themselves tangled in a troubling web when their sex drives are different, and it can wreck havoc on a marriage. Please, please help me. I am going through hell!!
I have been married 13 years and our sex life has always been bad from my point of view. My wife has a low sex drive and gets by maybe once a year or so and is okay about that. Over the years we have been to Relate etc and she is currently getting help from a doctor for depression.
Many women will pass off the symptoms of HSDD as the inevitable effects of aging or changes in their body. Unlike other medical conditions, there is no specific test to diagnose HSDD. Yet, there are a few methods used by doctors to diagnose the condition.
Cath Bentley still remembers the first sign that her husband had lost his sex drive. She remembers where they were, when it was and how she felt - though at the time Cath had no idea it was anything more than temporary, no inkling it would lead to their separation. It was like he wasn't enjoying it, like he was making an effort.
Ian Kerner is a licensed psychotherapist, certified sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author. Read more from him on his website, iankerner. In fact, low desire in one partner is probably the top reason couples seek out sex therapy.